adopters, Breeds, foster dogs, foster-to-adopt, fostering, hard to adopt, Pit bull

Looking for Your Next Best Friend?

Abby is still here. And it’s just not fair.

She’s no longer living on a chain (yay), but she is confined to one room much of her day. She can see the other dogs, hang out with our foster cat, and watch the activity out her window, but she’d much prefer to be with a person.

Abby is a people-dog. She loves people – all kinds, all sizes, all attitudes. She isn’t discouraged by her predicament, but I am.

I had hoped that she could be merged with our pack, and be able to hang out with me in my office (currently the dining room) with the other dogs. But she can’t, and that’s not her fault.

The dogs had been chatting amiably through the baby gates for two weeks, walking side by side on leashes, and it seemed all systems were go for allowing Abby access to the house.

The first experience went fine – I watched them like hawks, didn’t allow too much sniffing into each other’s personal spaces. They hung out with us for a few hours. No issues.

The next experience went well, too. Otis and Abby shared a dog bed beside me as I worked and Fanny and Gracie slept nearby. I did note that Fanny was keeping her distance.

But then things went south. Abby wandered apparently too near Fanny and Fanny went after her and bit Abby in the face before we separated them. Abby has two small puncture wounds on her face, Fanny was unscathed (and unrepentant).

So now Abby is back to her separate room, and I feel terrible. She deserves her own home and her own person. She was not the dog with an issue, my dog was. Fanny is the alpha here and whether Abby challenged that unwittingly or not, Fanny will not tolerate her presence.

This is the struggle for so many who foster. I hear it all the time – I’d love to foster, but my dog doesn’t like other dogs. And we have to respect our dog’s wishes. So I am respecting Fanny’s. For now. I’m still hopeful that they can work it out and may bring the muzzles back out to make it possible.

It’s a balance between teaching my dog to be more tolerant and not making her live in fear.

The best solution would be for Abby to be adopted. And I will work hard to make that happen. What I need is someone willing to give her a chance. I spoke with the director of the Humane Society and she’s open to a foster-to-adopt situation.

Foster-to-adopt is a brilliant way to adopt out animals, in my opinion. It takes away the risk and makes it possible for dogs like Abby to get a chance.

People are afraid of big pit bulls, and as Abby fills out, she is indeed looking like a large dog. (and also a tiger! As she gets healthy, brindle stripes are appearing!)

Abby is as sweet as they come, so grateful and trainable. She is housebroken, walks well on a leash, is quiet, likes cats, and is generally fine with other dogs (except alpha females who are not fine with her). She’s adoptable in so many ways.

Her biggest issues are her insistent affection and her smarts. Not everyone likes nonstop dog kisses or a 60-pound dog who thinks she can fit in your lap.

Abby is smart enough to open doors left unlocked, and nudge open cabinets (at least cabinets that have trash cans in them). She can escape a flimsy crate much too easily. She never goes anywhere on these escapes, just runs to one of us, grinning broadly proud that she has remedied our aloneness. Compared to so many of the dogs we’ve fostered over the years, she’s easy-peasy.

I think she’d be the perfect dog for a young adult who would like company and protection. She’d like to be someone’s best friend and shadow. She loves to go places but is happiest snoozing by your side. And while Abby is not likely to confront an intruder with anything more than kisses, she does look intimidating. She’s the dog I’d love for my young adult daughter to have with her at all times (and she would if not for the apartment that does not permit dogs).

That said, she’d also make a great family dog because she loves all people indiscriminately. She doesn’t favor one of us over the other (unlike Fanny and Otis who default to me if I’m in the house).

So if you know anyone looking for a dog, send them our way. Abby is something special and I’m sure she will be a ‘heart dog’ for some lucky soul/s.

Until Each One Has a Home,


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5 thoughts on “Looking for Your Next Best Friend?”

  1. Two steps forward, one step back…isn’t that they way it goes? So sorry about that. I hope sweet Abby will find her fur-ever home soon. She totally deserves it and if she were near my, I’d absolutely be interested in her. I understand the whole respecting the dogs you have things. So unfortunate. Keeping my paws crossed for a happy outcome. 🤞🏼

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  2. That is such a sweet post! Hopefully for Abby’s benefit. I’ll be waiting to read the new update on the person lucky enough to usher in all of Abby’s love and affection!


  3. I’m so sorry! I can’t imagine how frustrated you must be. Like so many people, I’d take her if I could have another dog right now, but I just can’t. Praying the right home comes along for sweet Abby. She deserves it. Meanwhile, you are her angel…..


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